Safety Tips before you use a horse dildo

Saying that horse dildos are slightly larger than regular ones would be an understatement. If you have never tried one of the huge dildos, then you might want to slow it down and read some of the safety tips before you start horsing around. 

Descriptions of Horse Dildos Regarding Size, Design, and Materials Used

For all of those who have never seen a horse dildo, they are unique sex toys designed to represent male horse genitalia. The size is what’s considered extra-large, and it is usually over nine inches. It’s not rare to find ones that are around seventeen inches! 

Even though these toys are a replica of the horse’s tool, that doesn’t mean people wanting to try them desire to ride the horse from the other side. It is all about pushing the limits and enjoying the “fullness” these toys can offer. Besides having an option to pick size and shape, you can also find a variety of colors available. 

When it comes to design, these realistic dildos are both long and thick. The top of the toy is flatter than with regular dildos. Another fantastic addition to these types of dildos is that you can pick firmness. Available options some companies offer are firm, medium, or soft. 

What is more important is that materials used to create them are high-quality and mostly silicone-based (sometimes you can find medical PVC). That means they are safe to use and won’t cause any health issues. So be sure to find the one that suits your body so you won’t have to worry about allergies. 

Finally, most large dildos have a suction cup base, which allows them to stick to most surfaces. That way, you won’t have to trouble yourself with finding a perfect spot for your new toy. 

Gauging the Level of Readiness for the Size of Horse Dildos

We cannot stress enough how vital it is to prepare yourself before you try riding a horse dildo. For beginners, it is essential to start slow and take your time. Especially if you never had an experience like this before. If you ordered the toy online, it might come as a shock when you realize how huge 15 inches can be. So it is important to read the product description of the product that you are eyeing for. Most websites like LoveGasm provides detailed product descriptions including the dimensions of the toy.

Whether you plan on using them vaginally or anally, many worry about permanently “stretching” their body parts. Of course, that is not a possibility since our bodies are rather elastic, and everything will return to normal after a couple of days. 

To ensure that your fun time feels great, you will need to find a suitable position that will allow you to experiment with these kinds of toys. Any position that will enable you to spread out comfortably is great. You can start by lying on your back and placing a pillow underneath so you could prepare for the insertion. Some even suggest placing the dildo on the ground and squatting down over it. 

But most importantly, relax and take your time. Your body will get used to the size of the toy when you start. Whatever you do, don’t force yourself or try a simple quicky with it.

Preparation for Something Bigger Like a Horse Dildo

Once you’ve prepared mentally for meeting your new stallion, it is time for physical preparation. Needless to say, the first thing you need to do is make sure your toy (or toys) is clean. 

After you’ve finished cleaning, you can start with the foreplay. Since these dildos are massive, you will need to prepare yourself, and foreplay is essential. Another excellent way to warm yourself up is to start with smaller dildos. Trust us when we say that you don’t wish to start with the big one. Furthermore, if you are looking for some anal play, butt plugs might be the best option you have. 

Typical foreplay can involve butt plugs or anal beads (if you are planning on using toys for anal sex), or regular-sized dildos for vaginal. 

Lastly, try to find a position that you’ll be comfortable in. That way, you’ll have more fun and enjoyment when you’re finally ready for your stallion.

Lubricant Use Is a Must

The last thing you need to know is that using a lubricant is a must. There is no other way around it, and trying out horse dildos “dry” will cause you discomfort or maybe even pain. To avoid that, you will need to find a suitable lubricant. The type of lube you will use mostly depends on whether you plan on using the toy anally or vaginally. Moreover, if you have an allergy, you should pick your lubricant accordingly. 

Thicker lubricants that will last longer are perfect for larger toys. You can also find a specially designed lube for anal sex. Silicone-based lubricants are known to last longer and don’t require frequent application. 

There is also an option to get two-in-one lube with silicone combined with water-based lube. However, be sure to check out if the lubricant is compatible with the toy’s material. You can get lubes based on water because they are compatible with any type of sex, as well as all materials and condoms. 

Silicone lubes are excellent for people with more sensitive skin since they are hypoallergenic. However, they aren’t really compatible with silicone toys. Finally, oil-based lubes can cause infections, and they aren’t fun to clean up. So whatever you pick, you need to make sure it’s safe for your body. 


Extra-large dildos have been gaining popularity in the past couple of years. Many companies sell these toys in the shape of a horse penis. The size is almost always over nine inches, and it’s not rare to find even a seventeen-inch stallion. 

If you plan on trying out one by yourself, you should prepare before giving it a shot. And remember — use a lot of lube!

5 American sex norms that Europeans will never understand

Europeans tend to see a lot of American ideals and behaviors as bizarre. In particular, they aren’t wild about our politics and our food (though they love our television and our movies). And when it comes to sex? Well, Europeans tend to view us as the land of the free, home of the batshit crazy. Below are some of the biggest sexual WTFs Europeans have about America.

1. Extreme violence in the media is fine, just don’t show a nipple.

According to reports, the average American child will see 200,000 violent acts and witness 16,000 murders on TV by the time she is 18. Not only that, but the violence is getting more brutal and sadistic, and it often goes unpunished. In video games like Grand Theft Auto, players can run over sex workers, and the violence in Call of Duty has been linked to teen suicides. While this is considered fine and normal, showing the naked or partially naked human body on TV is considered extremely taboo. When Justin Timberlake accidentally ripped off a piece of Janet Jackson’s costume during the Super Bowl halftime show, revealing her nipple for a fraction of a second, this not only caused a moral outrage that lasted for days, but the FCC tried to fine television network CBS $550,000 for broadcasting “indecency.” The FCC ultimately failed, but not first without going all the way to the Supreme Court. The nip slip incident became the most-searched-for thing on the Internet in 2004, and CBS actually forced Jackson to apologize to Americans. “I am really sorry if I offended anyone, that was truly not my intention,” Jackson said.

A Dutch friend who now lives in London also remarked on this disconnect between violence and nudity: “The movie Frida with Salma Hayek is rated R in the U.S. because of nudity, but in Holland it was 6 (for children 6 and older). But many violent movies are 16 in Holland and PG/PG-13 in the U.S. Why are boobs worse than death? How do boobs affect people negatively? Are they scary? Do they make people do bad things? I wanna know!”

2. Our puritan prudery.

Sex is everywhere. We can’t even sell a cheeseburger in the U.S. without overtly bonerrific images that are, frankly, confusing. Are we supposed to eat our food or have sex with it, Carl’s Jr.? And yet, we’re also so prudish that Attorney General John Ashcroft once spent $8,000 of taxpayer cash to cover up a statue’s breasts. We have spent billions on abstinence-only education programs that spread misinformation and shame teenagers into thinking sex is dirty and will ruin their lives forever. And instead of curbing the number of unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections, the opposite happens. Compared to European countries, most of which boast comprehensive sex ed, easy access to birth control and universal healthcare, the U.S. has alarming teen pregnancy rates—41.5 per 1,000 people, as reported by the United Nations in 2009. By contrast, the Netherlands had a teen birth rate of 5.3 per 1,000, Switzerland is 4.3 per 1,000, and Germany is 9.8 per 1,000. Europeans also have have lower STI rates, and far lower rates of HIV/AIDS.

3. Our fear of hugs.

Research has shown that non-sexual physical contact has a profound impact on people’s emotional and physical well-being. Despite this knowledge, and our hyper-sexualized tendencies, America is one of the most touch-phobic countries in the world. A global study on touch rated the United States among “the lowest touch countries studied.” In contrast, the high-touch countries include Spain, France, Italy, and Greece. Some researchers think our fear of platonic touching actually leads to violence, particularly in young males. In one study, American adolescents were shown to touch each other far less and be more aggressive toward their peers compared with French adolescents.

While there are many reasons why Europe has a much lower violent crime rate than the U.S, could a lack of healthy physical connection add to this trend? In 2012, research conducted by the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime found that the U.S. had a “homicide rate of 4.8 per 100,000 people compared to only 0.3 per 100,000 in Iceland, 0.7 per 100,000 in Sweden, 0.8 per 100,000 in Denmark and Spain, 0.9 per 100,000 in Italy, Austria and the Netherlands, 1.0 per 100,000 in France, and 1.2 per 100,000 in Portugal and the Republic of Ireland.”

4. Our anti-abortion violence.

Though there have been a few incidents of anti-abortion-related violence elsewhere (in Canada, New Zealand and Australia, for instance), the vast majority of violence occurs right here in the good ol’ US of A. The Department of Justice amended its definition of domestic terrorism to include this type of violence last year, and it includes such incidents as destruction of property, arson, bombings, vandalism, kidnapping, stalking, assault, attempted murder, and murder. In the last 20 years or so, anti-abortion violence has killed at least eight people in the U.S., including four doctors, two clinic employees, a security guard, and a clinic escort. In contrast, approximately ZERO people have been murdered trying to have or facilitate a safe and legal abortion in Europe.

5. Our preference for circumcision.

Though infant male circumcision rates have declined in the U.S. in the last decade or so, circumcision remains one of the most common procedures performed in hospitals (about 1.4 million annually). In Europe, however, circumcision is rare and generally frowned upon. A 2013 resolution called male ritual circumcision a “violation of the physical integrity of children,” and was passed overwhelmingly by the Parliamentary Assembly of the Council of Europe. Studies (both formal and informal) have shown that women in the U.S. have strong preferences for circumcised penises, citing “visual appeal” and “sexual hygiene” as reasons for their predisposition. European women, of course, prefer their men with dong-snuggies.

TikTok Is the New NSFW Tumblr

If you love watching dirty adult content and homemade porn via social networks, you were probably devastated when Tumblr banned all NSFW posts back in 2018, as it was one of the hottest platforms for users to share 18+ content.  

If you had an account, you surely remember the sheer number of juicy amateur or professional GIFs, videos, and photos lurking on this strangely satisfying part of the internet. Those were truly the glory days of porn on social media! 

But is there a Tumblr alternative? Is TikTok the new NSFW Tumblr? Or is it even better? Let’s find out! 

How TikTok Works? 

TikTok was launched back in 2016 by a Chinese company. However, it only became huge in 2018 after being ranked as the top app in several countries. Currently, it has over 800 million users from around the world. What’s more, the iOS/Android app recently topped 2 billion downloads. So how does it work?

Firstly, TikTok is a video-only blogging platform that limits content to 2, 15, and up to 60 seconds. It evolved out of the app. This app allowed users to show off their lip-synching skills via short videos. The idea of TikTok is more or less the same, and the user-generated clips mainly include gymnastics, lip-syncing to comedy or music, dancing, etc. 

Moreover, there’s a massive number of DIY videos, topic-based discussions, and so on. The app is also full of augmented reality video effects, live streams, and, most importantly, challenges. TikTok challenges are usually generated by the platform’s community or even by advertisers. 

TikTok Restrictions

Unfortunately, many believe that the golden era of NSFW TikTok is over. NSFW content used to be huge on this platform due to a lack of guidelines on sexual content. That allowed upcoming stars like Bree Louise to share nude videos and gain nearly a million followers.

However, in 2018, the app took cues from Instagram and published new terms of use that ban the majority of NSFW content. That included videos that contain sexual acts, content that shows off nude body parts and genitals, fetish videos, violence, and so on. Obviously, this put a stop to most porn on TikTok. 

Originally, users could enjoy horny TikTok dances, and the platform also spawned new adult trends like the “wipe it down” challenge. Plus, the KinkTok hashtag was incredibly popular, and it generated over 400 million views. However, you won’t be able to browse or post any of the naughty and kinky NSFW content on TikTok anymore due to the new guidelines. However, if you truly loved this platform and you used it responsibly, you can still make use of some of the loopholes.

It’s a Horny Place

Even with the previously mentioned restrictions, TikTok is still an incredibly horny place. Its rules do not ban sexy dances, bikinis, topless males, and provoking challenges. Also, it’s still possible to post videos that talk about sex, especially within the KinkTok hashtag. 

Tons of content creators still discuss spanking, choking, bondage, BDSM play, sex toys, and so on. Some, like Pixie-Pie or Nate Hammer, now use TikTok as an educational platform for all things kink and post videos to teach new kinksters and fetish fans. Also, keep an eye out on hot challenges like “are you lost baby girl,” “good girl challenge,” “eye tracker,” or “no gag reflex.” 

Obviously, the adult content ban occurred due to faulty guidelines that allow minors to post explicit content. That was obviously illegal, and it posed a lot of risks of sexual predators. Since you don’t have to be a member to view a user’s posts, it raised many concerns due to dozens of videos featuring underage users dancing in provocative clothes like bikinis. 

The Loophole 

While TikTok also bans content that is “sexually arousing,” it still doesn’t crack down on videos with dancing, teasing, and talking. A lot of amateur and pro pornstars like Mia Khalifa or Owen Gray still use the platform to discuss sex and shake up their followers’ imagination.

You can also find clips of users making out or even models posting JOI (jerk off instructions) videos. Other NSFW content that goes unnoticed features girls who show off tights, leather clothes, leggings, high heels, and other fashion accessories on their bodies. Plus, there are many hot yoga/workout videos that feature attractive models.

As mentioned, many users enjoy TikTok for its educational videos about BDSM, various fetishes, and the kink lifestyle. The “bondage” hashtag is among the most popular, and many TikTok members (singles and couples) use it to post suggestive videos. For example, they show you how to tie various types of knots, bondage belts, and so on. There are lots of rope/hair binding tutorials, clips that show off different bondage positions, and so on. And it’s still possible to stumble upon clips with bouncing boobs or even flashing. 

Ultimately, all of those videos will also end up on PornHub and Reddit’s r/tiktoknsfw. If you want to see NSFW TikTok in its prime, definitely check out some related content on those platforms. 

The Bottom Line

In the end, TikTok isn’t as dirty as it used to be. But that’s understandable due to the risks we’ve mentioned. Nevertheless, if you’re a curious kinkster or someone who enjoys getting teased, definitely check out some of the loopholes. TikTok was undoubtedly the best NSFW Tumblr alternative in its glory days. However, passionate adult content lovers and kinksters are still looking for a new platform that will grant all their wildest wishes.

TV Evolution and Sexual Revolution

How Sex Invaded Television Programming

A long time ago, television was wholesome and pure family fun. Nowadays, we boast that television is in its golden age. Networks and streaming services are trying to push the boundaries of narratives to attract viewers. That means more sex, more adult topics, and more inclusion of marginalized sexual proclivities.

TV Programs Then and Now

You don’t need to look hard to see naked bodies and banging. We’re not talking about the abundance of porn. Just look at “Game of Thrones” — you rarely encounter an episode without a complimentary pair of breasts. Before that, in “Sex and the City,” people religiously watched four women screwing all over New York. That wasn’t always the case, though.

The first TV darling, “I Love Lucy” (1950s), had a married couple sleeping in different beds. This was how much sex was a taboo. In the 1960s, “Bewitched” had a controversial leap, and spouses slept in one bed. So what happened? Primarily, the sexual revolution. Also, marginal groups were fighting for their visibility.

Half a Century of Sexual Revolution

The ‘70s and ‘80s brought the advent of “Jiggly TV.” You could see beautiful girls running and bouncing in skimpy outfits. Do you remember the plot of “Charlie’s Angels”? Of course not, but beautiful girls stayed iconic thanks to it. Furthermore, every episode of “Three’s Company” revolved around the gimmick of how a guy is living with two girls, and it might be sexual.

But the real heat started to rise in the ‘90s. In 1993, “NYPD Blue” started airing with scenes of sex and violence, while “Sex and the City” began airing in 1998. With the advent of reality TV, viewers could see everyday people having actual sex. The 2000s continued the trend, and more and more shows were pushing the boundaries of adult themes and how they were portrayed.

Shifting Content for Shifting Tastes

Buttocks and Boobs, the Forerunners of Nudity

In 1993, “NYPD Blue” showed nudity in the form of David Caruso’s ass. That was a big deal. The show depicted scenes of sex, and, although there was no frontal nudity, you could catch the buttocks of male and female actors.

When it comes to breasts, for a long, time you could only get a glance of a side boob. “Baywatch” was all about that — cleavage. Pamela Anderson and her friends were sensually running and bouncing through the sand. The plot of the show took a back seat, and it was the collection of gorgeous girls that took the audience as a storm.

Sexy Time for Teens and Young Adults

These were all shows that were targeted at mature audiences, but the ‘90s had more aces in their sleeves. Series like “90210” and “Buffy the Vampire” Slayer were aimed at teens and young adults. The big twist was that they tackled teenage sex life. From the very start, “90210” covered topics of losing virginity and showed teenagers as highly sexual.

However, it was “Buffy” that brought some game changers and made an impact. Besides referencing that teenagers had intercourse, this show had a lesbian relationship. Kudos for the LGBTQ+ presentation, but there was something better — the famous scene of Buffy having sex with Spike in which they literally tear down the house while bonking.

New Millennia, New Sexual Frontiers

Though the show started in 1998, “Sex and the City” ushered new standards into the 2000s. Almost every episode had at least one sex scene. The show covered it all: intercourse, masturbation, fetishes, same-sex relationship, threesomes, etc. Fun fact: Sarah Jessica Parker playing Carry was never naked.

The 2000s were the starting point of the sex bonanza that we have today. HBO continued with its trend of racy content with “The Sopranos,” “Rome,” “Game of Thrones,” and “Girls.” Showtime had its fair share of steamy sex with “True Blood,” “Californication,” and “Weeds.” “Masters of Sex” was completely dedicated to the history of sexual liberation. And the list continues to grow.

It seems that after Jannet’s famous wardrobe malfunction in 2004, everything went up the hill with nudity on TV.

The Effect of Reality TV

Expansion of sexual content came hand in hand with the relatively recent trend of reality TV. The first shows started popping up in the ‘90s, and they were usually crime-oriented. Still, there were a couple of steamy ones like HBO’s “Real Sex.” Not as directly, MTV’s “Real World” covered sexual themes and identities very early on.

Some shows had spice from the get-go like Hue Hefner’s “Girl Next Door.” Here, you could see the lifestyle of Playmates, girls living in the Playboy Mansion. The show had glamour and buxom beauties showing skin. Other shows caught on quickly — less clothing, more viewers.

Sexy + Drama = Butts in Seats

It was in the 2000s that reality TV exploded. Producers figured out that drama and sex generate viewership, and usually, one sparks the other. Soon TV shows started gravitating towards intercourse between contestants. “Big Brother” started airing in 2000, but it gave its first humping-under-the-covers show in the 4th season. From there, it somewhat became an unspecified staple of the show.

Other TV shows also relied on gimmicks of sexy drama. “Keeping Up with the Kardashians” revolved around the titular family, and along with them, their love life. “The Real Housewives” series always has the element of cheating and who slept with whom.

Many people say that the era of reality TV has passed. Well, that’s not quite true, as there are constantly new programs popping up, and they tend to spark interest with sex as well. “Too Hot to Handle” is practically a musical chairs game, but with screwing.

The View on Sex on TV

Deeper, Deeper, Deeper Meaning

Oscar Wilde: “Everything in this world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.” You might not agree with this statement, but it rings somewhat true when it comes to sex in the media. Scenes and reference to sex in television programs are never solely about intercourse. That’s why so many people get their panties in a twist about it.

The depiction of genitals, lovemaking, and sexual proclivities reflect societal attitudes towards them. As society evolves, so does sex in our media. Many shows deal with sex, but you can easily compare a sex scene from feminist centered “Gray’s Anatomy” and gay favorite “Looking” and see the difference in views.

Sexy Examples

Intercourse on TV has paradoxically become less fetishized and more fetishized at the same time. There’s a certain demystification and down-to-earth element about how people screw in “Girls.” There’s now sensuality and slow jazz behind it. Hanah is simply banging. That is what appealed to the show’s audience.

Who is the most memorable character in the “Sex and the City”? Samantha! You could be invested in Carey’s romance or identify with Charlotte, but it was Samantha who lingers in our collective memory. The reason is that all her sexual adventures and mishaps shared a message to women: be more sexual, take chances, and have fun.

Protecting What They Can

The most powerful entity that influences American TV is FCC (Federal Communication Commission). This independent government body dictates censorship and regulates what is acceptable to be aired. All content must follow the decency standards, and networks follow them religiously.

This means that swear words will be blipped, or characters will scream screw you instead of the F word, and so on. These regulations are also the reasons why shows like “Dexter” have huge body counts, but you get to see only a side boob when it comes to nudity. Still, these laws don’t fall from the sky.

There is a constant tug-of-war between the media station and concerned citizen groups. TV tries to make programs that will attract an audience and thus gain revenue and sponsors. In return, specific groups influence them. For example, conservative Christians would ask the cancellation of sexy tv programs while LGBTQ+ would ask for more inclusion.

‘’With great power comes great responsibility,’’ and with so much sex on our screens comes the responsibility of understanding it and how we consume them all together.

The Hookup Culture in America

There is no doubt that the whole hookup culture in America is having an impact on society. Many young women and men are getting into casual sex every day. Some claim that the entire Western culture is having a significant problem, while others rejoice.

How Is Sex Portrayed in Different Western Media?

People from all over the world are using modern technology and getting their information via the internet, television, and music. Whether we like it or not, the media influences all of us, at least to some extent. However, there is a significant difference between the sex as we see it in the media and sex in real life.

Many TV shows and movies show casual sexual relationships without any real consequences, while many promote something entirely different. The internet, too, is a porn hive, and some of the content can be quite explicit.

In short, not many outlets promote abstinence. The question is — should they?

We all saw people (even fictional ones) having one-night stands, and practicing casual sex so many times that it’s normal. Whether this is the right move or not, time will tell. But there is no doubt that this kind of behavior is almost a standard for many.

Hook Ups vs. Old Dating Habits

Before the whole internet era, people had to date, and they were, let’s be honest, quite conservative. A couple of decades ago, having more than one partner was atrocious, but hooking up with someone today is normal.

Courting that will develop into a relationship is almost dead. Everything is faster now, and many men and women are looking to skip the “boring” part and go straight to the juicy stuff. But the reality is that both ideas have flaws.

Chastity and abstinence were promoted for the wrong reasons. Most people avoided relationships to escape criticism and being scorned by society (and the church). And what can a person do to avoid the whole stigma behind sex other than just wait until they are “ready.”

Over the years, young people showed times and again that they are ready a lot sooner than society and religion claim, and they needed an escape. However, it seems that the whole thing spiraled out of control, and now, we’re at something opposite. People who aren’t having wild sex or hooking up are almost outlaws, and it looks like long-term relationships aren’t that desirable anymore.

What Drives the Hookup Culture?

The whole culture is usually associated with late adolescents in the U.S. Of course, this “movement” doesn’t have to represent sexual culture only, and hooking up can mean anything from kissing to casual sexual encounters.

So, what is the thing that drives the hookup culture? It seems that the answer to this question is both sex and freedom.

High school and college students are sexually active, that’s no secret. But they are probably looking for pleasure without pain. If you engage in casual sex, you won’t have to worry about “catching feelings” in the process. Instead, you can focus on physical pleasure and avoid emotional consequences that can be a part of the relationship. Or so many believe.

For some, it might be an escape, while for others, it is a way of having pleasure and enjoying life. Needless to say, some are tricked or even forced into it while being intoxicated. However, others are looking for a relationship despite everything.

Many adolescents see sex and relationship as two different things, and some people believe that this will lead to further problems. They claim that hookup culture will lead to an inability to form stable and intimate relationships in the future.

The Use of Dating Apps

In the modern era, finding sexual engagement seems easier than ever. Many people seem to skip the whole dating process now that you can contact anyone on the globe. Instead of meeting people in real life, you can chat with them and get to know them without ever seeing them in person.

Today, there are so many dating apps that ease the whole process. Some people say that these dating apps are what created the whole hookup culture. Whether the chicken or the egg came first, there is no doubt that apps like Grindr and Tinder made everything easier.

All you have to do is create a profile, write a little bit about yourself, and start searching for someone with at least similar interests. Once you have found someone you like, you can start chatting and getting to know each other before you meet in person.

The Risk of the Hookup Culture

Many see this kind of behavior as risky and dangerous, and to be honest, there are plenty of things that can go wrong. Without meeting someone in person, you won’t have any idea what they are like. People pretend, lie, and sweet talk online, and reality can be disappointing.

Of course, it would be unfair to ignore the fact that many people are sincere and genuinely looking for a relationship. But either way, being unconscious can have consequences.

Firstly, changing partners and having casual sex can lead to STDs. Casual sex doesn’t have to be a bad thing, but safety should always be a number one priority. Secondly, many people have access to the internet, including predators as well. People can be friendly and kind online, and reality can be the opposite. Casual sex and careless behavior can lead to non-consensual sex and many other problems.

Finally, for some, the whole hookup culture is not working. If the person is looking for a serious relationship, current trends might be problematic. Being denied something you desire or being hurt and emotional can lead to mental health problems like depression.

In reality, for some people out there, hookups are the best thing since sliced bread. But for others, it might turn out to be a nightmare.

I Spy With My Little Eye

In a day and age when the authorities violate our privacy daily, how do we, as a society, look at voyeurism? All sorts of kinks and fetishes come and go, but only one remains as popular as ever. Watching people have sex, undress, or go about their daily routine isn’t a taboo anymore. We do it every day.

Fantasies of all sorts have become widely accepted in recent years, and most of them are harmless. But voyeurism walks that thin line between what’s legal and what’s not. Most of us watch porn videos from time to time. We enjoy seeing others indulge in private affairs, and we follow reality shows like “Big Brother” and “Love Island.” By doing this, we display similar urges and behaviors like Peeping Toms.

The thing is, a voyeuristic fetish is fine when people consent to it, but it’s not always like that. Some people enjoy secretly peeping at others while they’re taking their clothes off or having sex. This makes voyeurism a sex crime, punishable by law. If you want to please your sexual urges but not get in conflict with the authorities, we suggest you keep on reading this article.

Movie buffs will know what happens when you spy on others without their consent. For instance, Kyle MacLachlan’s character in David Lynch’s cult classic “Blue Velvet” gets into trouble for watching Isabella Rossellini and Dennis Hopper have kinky sex in her apartment. Sexual behaviors like voyeurism are delicate, and not everyone will enjoy them.

Therefore, let’s look into the world of peeping toms. It’s a taboo subject, so you should expect all kinds of delicacies further down the road. Shall we?

All About Voyeurism

Generally speaking, voyeurism is a pretty simple kink. Watching people masturbate, have sex, or even undress is what most people will tell you peeping is. For the most part, they’re not wrong. It’s a feeling of arousal while observing others during their time of privacy.

The American Psychiatric Association considers it to be a sort of paraphilia with links to disorders like OCD. But saying it’s dangerous to your physical or mental health can be a bit misleading. Millions of people find pleasure in watching men and women undress or engage in sexual activities. Therefore, it’s key to separate examples of acceptable and dangerous forms of peeping.

In 19th-century France, brothels would offer their customers a chance to watch other people have sex. Of course, they would be hidden from their subjects, making the whole thing pretty creepy. This service would cost more than your usual run-of-the-mill session with a prostitute. Hence, in some ways, you could say it was a big thing among the elites.

This kink became widely popular after WWII. Back then, most fetishes and fantasies were deemed shameful, but when a certain movie brought light to the idea of watching others without their consent, the public went bonkers. The movie was, of course, Hitchcock’s “Rear Window” with Jimmy Stewart and Grace Kelly.

The Good and Bad Kind of Voyeurism

It’s pretty easy to understand what’s good and what’s bad voyeurism, but just in case, we’ll walk you through both scenarios. The first one is when everyone involved in the event has given their consent to another person watching them while being intimate. And obviously, the bad scenario is when someone’s doing it secretly. Voyeuristic behaviors are many, and as such, it’s important to analyze them all.

Some people are sexually aroused by being hidden from others and watching them during their private time. This in itself is rather wrong for many reasons, but in short — it’s illegal. It’s a sexual offense, and the law sees it as harassment. In other words, it’s a form of stalking, similar to those you see in horror movies.

On the other hand, some people get off while being someone’s object of desire. They give full consent to strangers watching them getting undressed, masturbating, or even having sex with their partner. Voyeurism is also pretty close to the cuckold fetish, which involves one person observing their partner having sex with a third party. But cucks usually enjoy more than just watching — they enjoy humiliation and all other sorts of things.

Either way, it’s important for you not to fall into the bad category. If you have a need to stalk people, it’s probably time to speak to a therapist and begin treatment for the voyeuristic disorder. Besides psychotherapy, you can also join a support group. In many ways, these gatherings can help you talk and share your feelings with others who have the same problem.

Making Voyeurism Fun

For any fetish to work in real life, it’s key to make it fun. The same goes for peeping. There are many ways in which people make voyeurism interesting while still keeping it legal. One of the most popular types of watching others being intimate is cuckolding and hotwifing.

In case you don’t know anything about these two kinks, we’ll shortly explain. Cuckolding is a sexual practice that consists of a man willingly watching his partner have sex with another person. He’s the cuck, and she’s the hotwife. Ideally, the third person is a stranger.

Sure, not everyone is up for this kind of action, but it works closely with peeping. And if it sparks some interest in you, you can always pretend to be hiding while they do it. For instance, watching them while hiding behind a door or even through the window. Either way, everyone who participates will have the impression of a classic Peeping Tom tale.

Just remember that it’s all about consent. If someone doesn’t agree with what you’re proposing, you should abandon the idea. It’s not okay to watch others without them knowing. No matter if you think you’re not doing anything wrong, it’s a violation of privacy, and the law treats it as stalking and sexual harassment.

Swinging With the Times

Nowadays, it’s not strange to hear stories about couples experimenting with all sorts of kinks and fetishes. The older you get, the more mundane and dull your relationship becomes. And seeing how that applies to most couples, it’s no wonder why they try to spice up and enhance their private lives in many ways.

Since the turn of the century, societal stigmas and taboos have become less important to your run-of-the-mill folks. The sex revolution came and went, and with it, it brought certain freedoms for all kinds of groups and individuals. But besides your regular LGBTQ rights, the public began to embrace hetero fantasies too. Now, one of the most popular fantasies and lifestyles in the United States is swinging.

It’s a deliberate choice by both partners to be open to having intimate relationships with other people. Sometimes they’d go out together looking for potential partners, while at other times, they’d do it solo. It’s the quintessential open sexual relationship, lacking any kind of jealousy and judgment. But unfortunately, it’s not for everyone.

Sharing your hubby or wife is a bit more delicate than some other kinks. It’s pretty easy to hurt each other’s feelings. Therefore, we think it’s best to go into detail about everything that surrounds this type of relationship. So, without further ado, we suggest you hold on tight because it’s going to be one Hell of a ride!

What Is the Swinger Lifestyle?

Essentially, swinging is a kink that implies that both partners enjoy having multiple sex partners outside their relationship. Although it might seem like cheating at first glance, it’s far from it. Both partners agree to it, making swinging the basis of an open relationship. It’s pretty much built on mutual consent and trust.

In some cases, these couples attend swinger parties, looking for other couples to swap partners with. Moreover, it’s a great chance to experience group sex or even an orgy. But it’s not always necessary. Sometimes, swinging means that just one partner will be involved — with their significant other’s approval, of course.

This variation leads to other fetishes, for example, cuckolding and hotwifing, meaning you can have a swinger wife, while her husband enjoys being humiliated by letting her do all the “cheating.” Either way, it’s important to have full consent for a swinging relationship to work. Otherwise, it’s just cheating, and that’s wrong.

Why Do Couples Want to Try It?

It’s not uncommon to hear about couples breaking up because of bad sex. In most cases, the lack of quality action in the bedroom lies at the root of most divorces and breakups. It’s unfortunate, but that’s just how couples work. You want excitement and fun — otherwise, you’d feel like you’re wasting your time.

And for your life to get back on track, it’s key you spice it up a bit. Moreover, it’s important to escape the routine. Therefore, it’s easy to understand why men and women would like to experiment with such a relationship style. It allows you to have new experiences with several sexual partners, breaking the shackles of conservative concepts of a monogamous relationship.

All in all — it’s new, and it’s interesting. And in some ways, swinging helps partners bond even more on a different level. It can rejuvenate your affection for each other while still helping you experiment with different people. But like other fantasies, it’s not for everyone.

Possible Issues and Dangers Couples May Encounter

Although swinging can prove to be the best decision you could make, it can come with issues and dangers too. Sex and intimacy are delicate things, meaning they carry burdens of their own. One of them is jealousy. No matter how strong a person you are, sharing your partner with someone else can be the beginning of many problems.

Lots of couples go into swinging, thinking they can handle the pressure of swapping their partner. Sometimes, it works great — if there’s no ego involved. But, most of the time, it doesn’t go so smoothly. Having a number of sexual partners can distort your confidence and feeling of self-worth. In other words, it’s a make or break situation.

On the other hand, sexually transmitted infections can become a common problem if you don’t take care of things the right way. For instance, having group sex without adequate preparation and hygiene will surely lead to health issues. Therefore, it’s important to change condoms if you’re having sex with multiple partners.

Also, having sex with strangers you met at a swinger club isn’t the smartest idea. Unless you know them, you can’t be sure if they carry something dangerous with them. Experienced and mature swingers always make sure their new friends are clean and safe to be around.

Is the Swinger Lifestyle for You?

If you’re looking to try swinging, you should ask yourself a couple of questions first. Since we’ve said it’s not for everyone, it would be dishonest to promote it without making sure you could handle it. To have a successful sex life that involves fantasies and kinks, it’s key you thoroughly prepare your relationship for it.

Firstly, how bad is your sex life? In case you’re having less and less pleasure with your partner in bed, you should bring it up in conversation. Try something simpler first, like maybe role-play or sex toys. And in case that doesn’t fulfill your desires, suggest something like experimenting with other people.

On the other hand, ask yourself how jealous are you in real life? If you resemble a person who’s more possessive than others, swinging will only make even more problems for the two of you. Trust is the basis of swapping partners. If you don’t see yourself or your partner accepting that you could have more fun with a third person, forget about an open relationship.

Also, the question of sexual health is as important as anything else. Many people go into swinging without considering the dangers of STIs. That’s not really what you should do if you want to have a good time. Therefore, choosing partners not only by their looks in a swinger club, but also by getting to know them will prove to be more important.

11 Surprising Facts About America’s Sexual Behaviors

Wow, to be a paid researcher in America to study the sexual behaviors of Americans. Now that’s an enticing job. Where do I sign up?

Apparently I’d pop on over to Indiana University, as that’s where the latest batch of researchers come from who have something to say about sex in America.

As a part of the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, researchers surveyed a national, representative sample of 5,865 people ages 14 to 94. They recently published some of their initial findings in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

So without further ado, here are 11 surprising facts about sex in America from that survey.

1. Condom use is pretty uncommon.

Only 1 in 4 acts of sexual intercourse are protected by a condom. Condoms are, of course, the most reliable method to avoid sexually transmitted diseases while having sex.

2. Yet condom use is just as pleasurable.

Contrary to popular wisdom, people surveyed said that their sexual pleasure was just as intense with condom use as it was without. This included arousal, pleasure and achieving orgasm.

3. Americans like variety.

The researchers detailed over 40 different combinations of sexual activity when participants were asked to describe their most recent sexual encounter.

4. Men orgasm from regular intercourse most often; women, on the other hand, require more of a variety of sexual acts — which may include oral or vaginal intercourse — in order to orgasm.

While men enjoy sexual variety as much as women, they don’t need it in order to enjoy an orgasm. Women appear to benefit more from such variety in order to make the likelihood of an orgasm greater.

5. Men don’t have a clue when it comes to their partner’s orgasm.

While 85 percent of men reported their partner had an orgasm during their most recent sexual activity, only 64 percent of women reported having had an orgasm. The difference of over 20 percent isn’t accounted for simply because of same-sex relationships.

It suggests men overestimate their partner’s sexual experience, or that women are leading men to believe they orgasmed in order to end the sexual activity earlier.

6. Most teenagers aren’t doing it as often as you might think.

Only 27 percent of teens surveyed said they had intercourse in the past 3 months.

7. More of us try out a gay, lesbian or bisexual activity once in our lives than you might think.

The survey found that 8 percent of men and 7 percent of women identified themselves as either gay, lesbian or bisexual. But this percentage was much lower than the proportion of individuals who had said “Yes” to a question about whether they’ve ever had same-gender sexual activity in their lives. Many people may experiment with such activities, but stick to what feels best for them in the end.

8. You don’t have to be young to enjoy sex.

Older adults report enjoying and engaging in sexual activity nearly as much as younger adults. In fact, the survey found that men in their 50s are having more sex than teenage males.

9. Men give oral sex as much as they receive it.

Contrary to popular wisdom again, men — especially older men — give as much oral sex to women as women give to men. While the difference is greatest in the 20 to 24 year old range (with only 55 percent of men saying they’ve given it in the past year, compared to 74 percent of women), the tables turn as we age. In the 30 to 39 age range, 69 percent of men report having given a woman oral sex, while only 59 percent of women have.

In other age ranges, the differences are far less greater, with only a few percentage points differentiating the two groups.

10. Both men and women masturbate.

The vast majority of people at all age groups masturbate. Yes, men regularly out-masturbate women, with over 80 percent of 20 to 29 year old men reporting masturbating in the past year. But women are no slackers either, with 64 to 72 percent of women in the same age range reporting masturbating in the past year.

11. We all like to brag.

Similar to point #5, more people in the survey said they received oral sex than those who said they gave oral sex. If everyone was telling the truth, these numbers should be within a few percentage points of one another.

Instead, we see many discrepancies. For instance, 70 percent of women claimed to have received oral sex from a man in the 20 to 24 age group, but only 55 percent of men admitted to having given oral to a woman. Sixty-two percent of men aged 40 to 49 claimed they received oral, but only 53 percent of women said they gave it.

Apparently saying you’ve received oral sex is still more attractive than saying you’ve given it.

Understanding Men’s Sex Drive

Do you ever wonder what goes on inside men’s heads? Is it true that they never think about anything other than sex? Are they not interested in romance? We wonder about the same things.

There are so many questions about why men are so casual about sex. They participate in it with random people too, like it’s no big deal. What’s all that about? Truth be told, it’s not even their fault.

Testosterone is to blame. We all have some levels of testosterone in our bodies. Men, however, have a lot more. It regulates a lot of things and helps the production of sperm too. So, it’s not that it only keeps men horny.

In this article, we will debunk the stereotypes of men’s libido and tell you what is really going on.

The Male Sex Drive Stereotypes

You know what they say about men — they only think about sex all the time. Nothing else interests them. Is that really the truth? Let’s take a look at some stereotypes.

The list of stereotypes that surround men and their sex drive is anything but short. They’re portrayed as sex-crazed beings all over media too. Not only that, but the media caters to those stereotypes as well. How? Anime is one example, and we don’t even have to explain why.

Don’t get us wrong — loving sex is completely normal. But do men really think about sex and nothing else all day long? The stereotypes suggest so, but studies show that guys might just be more comfortable thinking about sex and expressing their thoughts.

Some of the other stereotypes include men masturbating more than women, as well as needing less time to orgasm. Have you ever heard that men are “more open to hook-ups”? That is another stereotype — studies show that women are just as open to it, but when approached in safe environments.

Last but not least — are men really less romantic than women? Men have feelings too, and they shouldn’t be looked over. Dudes can definitely be romantic when they want to.

What Is Testosterone?

Testosterone is the so-called “male” hormone, but there is so much more to it than that. Here’s why it’s essential.

Testosterone plays a significant role when it comes to men’s libido. It’s a hormone whose production happens mainly in the testicles. Besides making you horny, testosterone has other vital roles too.

Having healthy testosterone levels ensures:

  • Your male sex organs developing
  • Production of sperm and red blood cells
  • Your voice deepening when you hit puberty
  • Body hair growth

Testosterone levels are the highest in your late teens. After that, they begin their decline. That means that older men have a lower libido than younger men.

Still, that doesn’t mean they lose all interest in sex — it merely means they need some time to get going.

What Are The Causes of Low Libido?

The list of causes of low libido in men is even longer than the list of stereotypes.

Many men experience issues with libido in their lifetime. That’s nothing to be ashamed of, especially when many things can affect it. The loss of libido happens with age, so it doesn’t need to be tied to a medical condition. However, sometimes it can point in that direction.

We know low testosterone levels affect libido, but what about other things? Stress and depression can greatly affect it too. When dealing with mental health issues, it’s best to see a professional. In turn, antidepressants can also take a toll on your sex drive. If you notice that happening, your doctor should be able to offer you an alternative.

Another cause of low libido is chronic illnesses such as high blood pressure, diabetes, obesity, and even organ failure. If you’re experiencing sleep problems (like sleep apnea), your sex drive is in danger as well.

Lastly, alcohol and drug abuse can mess up your overall health. That, of course, includes libido. Make sure you do anything in your power to stay at optimal overall health, and a healthy sex drive will follow along.

What Is Erectile Dysfunction?

Many men experience not just low libido but also erectile dysfunction (ED) at some point in their lives.

Simply put, erectile dysfunction is the inability to get an erection or maintain it. That definitely affects your sexual performance. To be frank, it makes you incapable of any kind of performance at all.

Although ED isn’t the cause of any other conditions, it can take a toll on other aspects of your life. It can affect your relationships, self-esteem, and ability to get your partner pregnant. Of course, it’s also very stressful and can cause depression.

That sounds like a big circle of moodiness and stress. Thankfully, it can be treated and managed so visit your doctor on time.

  • Diabetes
  • Heart issues
  • Kidney disease
  • High blood pressure
  • Testosterone deficiency
  • Relationship problems
  • Depression, stress, and/or anxiety
  • Sleep disorders
  • Alcohol and drug abuse

Although ED isn’t the cause of any other conditions, it can take a toll on other aspects of your life. It can affect your relationships, self-esteem, and ability to get your partner pregnant. Of course, it’s also very stressful and can cause depression.

That sounds like a big circle of depression and stress. Thankfully, it can be treated and managed, so visit your doctor on time.


Contrary to popular belief, not all men are the same. We, as human beings, are all different. Stereotypes of any kind are ridiculous, and so are those of men’s sex drive.

We cannot generalize how men view sex. Some enjoy it more than others, but so do women. Men’s sex drive varies from one individual to another. But there are some parts of it that we can all understand.

A lot of it has to do with testosterone levels, so it’s not exactly all their fault. Low libido and ED are also issues a lot of men face and shouldn’t be shamed for.

The Rise Of Hookup Sexual Culture On American College Campuses

Cultures – sets of widely-endorsed ideas reflected in rules for interaction and in the organization of our institutions – are powerful social forces that shape individuals’ lives. In colleges, “hookup culture” refers to the idea that casual sexual encounters are the best or only way to engage sexually; and the concept also refers to rules of social interaction that facilitate casual sexual encounters and organizational arrangements that support these encounters.

Today, almost all of America’s residential college campuses are characterized by a hookup culture – large and small, private and public, secular and religious, and left- and right-leaning campuses. Students must contend with this culture even if they are not especially sexually active. In fact, many students are not very active. The average graduating senior reports hooking up just eight times in four years; and a third do not hook up even a single time. Individual students can and do opt out of casual hookup sexual encounters, but few can escape dealing with that culture.

The Origins of Campus Hookup Culture

Hookup culture is simply the newest stage in the evolution of sexual norms and behavior in America. Its roots lie in the early city life of the 1920s, the first time in U.S. history that young people routinely socialized in mixed-sex groups beyond the supervision of chaperones. This created intense media interest in “youth culture,” as college attendance became accessible to large swaths of the American population. After a couple hundred years of conflict with higher education administrators, fraternity men starting setting the social tone. Their way of experiencing college life – irreverent, raucous, and fun-oriented – was suddenly the way to experience college. Attending college was linked to the idea of being young and carefree.

The Great Depression and World War II put the brakes on such revelry. Young women initiated “going steady” – monogamous, long-term dating – as a response to the loss of young men to war. Yet going steady, a kind of “premature monogamy,” was both new and short-lived as an ideal for young people. By the 1960s, young people wanted to remain unattached; and meanwhile gay men in urban enclaves were experimenting with a culture revolving around “hookups.” The dangers of AIDs infection slowed down the process by which casual sexual encounters spread into the mainstream for young people, but this process proceeded nonetheless.

In 1978, the popularity of the movie Animal House ratcheted up expectations for college fun. Beer and liquor companies took advantage of the moment, spending millions in the 1980s to convince students that drinking was a mainstay of college life. Starting in 1984, when the U.S. government financially pressured the states to raise the legal drinking age from 18 to 21, control over campus parties was thrown increasingly into the hands of men who occupied large, private fraternity residences in which they could flagrantly break liquor laws. Fraternities again came to dominate the campus social scene. Until today, this remains true on many campuses, but many other factors also reinforce hookup sexual norms on college campuses – including media portrayals of college life, rising individualism, and a halfway transition toward women’s equality. Social and sexual norms originally embodied in fraternities now reign supreme on college campuses.

The Destructive Sense that Hookup Sex is the Only Option

After hearing about hookup culture, many older Americans wonder whether today’s students actually enjoy it. The answer appears to be both yes and no, as I learned from years of fieldwork. About a quarter of students thrive in this culture, at least at first. They enjoy hooking up and adapt well to hookup culture’s rules calling for fun and casual, short-term encounters. At the same time, about a third of students opt out altogether; they find hookup culture unappealing and would rather not have sex at all than have it the way this culture mandates. The remaining students are ambivalent, dabbling in hookups with mixed results. Overall, about one in three students say that their intimate relationships have been “traumatic” or “very difficult to handle.” Many of them experience a persistent malaise, a deep, indefinable disappointment. And one in ten says that they have been sexually coerced or assaulted in the past year.

Notably, my research suggests that hookup culture is a problem not because it promotes casual sex, but because it makes a destructive form of casual sexual engagement feel compulsory. Students who don’t hook up can end up being socially isolated, while students who do engage in this way are forced to operate by a dysfunctional set of rules. Hookup culture encourages a punishing emotional landscape, where caring for others or even simple courtesy seem inappropriate, while carelessness and even cruelty are allowed. At its worst, it encourages young men and women to engage in sexual competitiveness and status-seeking while meeting impossible standards of attractiveness. It privileges immediate pleasure-seeking and heightens risks that students will become either perpetrators or victims of sexual crimes.

Changing Power Structures and Destructive Sexual Norms

Understanding that the forces shaping sexual relationships on campuses are cultural – that problems lie not so much in particular encounters as in hookup culture overall – is the first step toward clarifying what needs to change. Because culture is a type of shared consciousness, many people need to work together to make changes happen. And they can. Especially because of the strong ties in student bodies, campuses can transform themselves faster than one might suspect.

Research shows that today’s young people are more open, permissive, earnest, hopeful for the future, and welcoming of diversity than any other generation in memory. They are well-positioned to usher in the next new sexual culture. But colleges as institutions must change, too. Institutions of higher education need to put substantial resources and time into shifting cultural norms in two ways: promoting casual sexual encounters that involve an ethic of care, and diversifying the kind of sexual encounters that are seen as possible and good. Colleges also need to change the institutional arrangements that give too much power to subsets of students who are most enthusiastic about hookup culture and who benefit from it at the expense of their peers. Doing this may mean disbanding fraternities and sororities as they have existed, because as long as these organizations and their ethics remain power bastions on U.S. campuses, hookup culture will persist.